Training Wheels of Life
by Bill · Filed Under: Motivational Monday's · Uncategorized
Some times we just need a little help. A helping hand or a shoulder to lean on. A gentle nudge along the correct path. A few kind words at just the right moment to change the course of our day. How many times have you felt this way? I know that I have and when it happens, it makes all the difference.
As I was thinking of training wheels, you know, the ones on our bikes when we were just learning to ride. We haven’t learned the balance thing yet. We need those tiny little wheels on our left and our right to help hold us up. Honestly they’re probably not holding much of our weight or the bikes, but what they provide in stability and guidance are invaluable to us at that moment. Just when we needed them. Then that scary day comes along when our Dad grabs the wrench and starts to remove those wheels. Our heart starts beating like crazy, and we have a great sense of trepidation over what might happen without our little friends.
But dad doesn’t just let us take off on our own. He’s right there with us, holding the back of our seat, jogging lightly along side us all the way. Up and down the street we ride, gaining strength from that feeling there are no wheels. Now Dad is sweating up a storm by now, but he doesn’t let go yet. He’s still there. Solid as a rock. Somewhere during the whole event he knows just the right moment to let up on his grip. Lightly holding the seat feeling through the vibration and steadiness of our riding that we’ve become well balanced. He let’s go and we’re just chatting away as if he’s still there. Nope, he’s stopped. And we’re doing it!
We need more Dad’s in our lives like that. It seems we’re always learning new things, experiencing more that life has to offer. If we’re lucky, we have those few people in our lives that we can say are the rocks that we can lean on, or the compass when we’re off track and need guidance. I’ve found that I need training wheels when I’m learning something new. It helps. But over time, I gain that confidence and strength to take off on my own. My mentor watches proudly from the sidelines. I find success in that thing I’m doing and feel good about it. All of these things happen to me and I get the joy of being able to share that with others as I gently hold the seat they’re on.
Be someone’s training wheels tomorrow. Guide them along as they need it, or steady their course. You’ll find more joy in the day when you’ve given this gift and stand back proud of that person’s success.





Bill,
Beautiful analogy that had me reliving that momentous occasion when my dad took the training wheels off of my bike. I can remember continuing the conversation with him, only to look back and see he wasn’t with me. Happy, loving memory!
I heartily accept the challenge of being someone’s training wheels. Thanks for laying down the gauntlet. I’ll share the story with you.
Hi Bill,
I love this analogy. I’ve had a lot of people in my life that have served as training wheels. I still have those people. They’ve helped me avoid a lot of wrecks, believe me.
I’m enthused at the idea of being someone’s training wheels as well. I’m stepping up to the plate or bicycle. Thanks, Bill.
Bill, I know that you know my Dad passed away a few years ago. This brought up a wonderful memory of him.
When my Dad was teaching me to ride a bike, he had just about given up. I remember him running behind me for MILES…huffing and puffing…but I would scream if he let go (I don’t know how I knew he let go…I just did)! He kept taking off the training wheels and running behind me over and over again, but to no avail.
Then, one day, when I was at the high school parking lot riding with my Dad nearby, a little boy and his father went by. The boy was much younger than me, and his Dad said to him “Look Johnny! You’re much younger than that girl and you don’t need training wheels”.
THAT’S IT!!! TAKE THEM OFF!!! My Dad couldn’t get them off fast enough. I jumped on and took off!
The moral of the story? Yes…we need those training wheels, but we also need inspiration to let go and fly on our own!
I hope you have the joy that your dad had when he saw you take off…
Hi Debbie, I need to do this as well. Take my own advice. Many times people come into our life and are seeking a little advice, nudge or something and we’re too busy to even notice. I’m going to keep my eyes opena bit more so when this opportunity comes up i don’t pass it by.
So there are two sides to every story….WOW! The proud moment when the father gets tow hold us up and then release us, and the other side when we feel the comfort and security of knowing we have a partner and help, then we also find joy in our flight without a co-pilot. I’m going to remember that. Thanks!
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Hey Bill,
What an amazing story. Thanks for sharing this with us all.
I think we can all relate to it in some way and experience in our lives.
I can actually remember the time when I was a kid and my Grandfather was the Dad in your story. How he spent hours with me trying to get me out of my training wheels. It took for me to be in an environment when I wanted to ride free to say “Take them off now” and then I just started riding! What an amazing memory and feeling that I have from that time in my life. Your post brought this back for me. Thanks.
I agree that we should all be an encouragement for others to help them to get out of their training wheels and on the road to the great life that is waiting for them. Whats holding them back you may be able to relieve.
Thanks again for the great post!
Make it a great day!
God Bless,
-ed
Hi Bill, I am a little overwhelmed this week, so I don’t remember if I left a comment and I don’t see one here. I absolutely had to be sure to let you know my feelings. This is one of the sweetest, most touching stories I have ever read.
The analogy to helping each other is wonderful and so appropriate to all aspects of our lives. What strikes me here is that this is not some headline story where a dad leaps tall buildings in a single bound, yet its impact is profound and far reaching.
We do not have to do much to affect the lives of others in a life changing way….just being there as needed to guide and steady can be all the difference in the world. Your dad also taught you trust…..trust that the universe is a good place and that the helping hand will be there.
Mentor Mama